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All of our relationships are unique. Each of us brings an intrinsic part of our hearts to every relationship we enter. I have been blessed with a Master that treasures the gift of my surrender. O/our collaring vows were not words spoken lightly. Daily, His actions reflect the respect and love He has for me. I am devoted to pleasing Him.

Saying the words to you...that your submission is a gift... does not reach many hearts. I see submissives latching onto Anyone with a big "M" in front of Their names. It shatters their lives when they realize that the big "M" was not Who or What they sought.

If you are new to the lifestyle, be aware of your own desires. Many at the door of submission open it to Anyone in the thirst for experience. A few moments of pleasure will leave you empty. A D/s relationship needs time to build trust if it is to endure more than a moment.

My mom always said "anything worth having is not easy." If you don't listen to your own mom, then listen to mine.

A few tips on what to look for in a Master/Mistress:

1. Watch how They interact with Their Peers and submissives. Look for mutual respect.

2. Take your time. Read what other submissives have learned. Watch other submissives serve their Dom/me, so when your time comes you will be ready.

3. Discover what type of submissive you want to become. Learn new skills like cooking, massage, belly dancing, etc.

4. Learn and practice proper manners. How to greet a Dom/me, the use of Sir/Ma'am after a response or a question. Your behavior will reflect on your future Dom/me; it will draw or alienate O/others. Let your personality shine through respectfully.

5. Most importantly be honest with what will fulfill you in a relationship. Settling for less than what you deserve will leave you frustrated. Be careful when disclosing personal information; those horror stories are true.

6. Do fill out a questionnaire before you become involved. It is a starting point for you and later it can be used to match Y/your limits.

BDSM Questionnaire