annie's Perspective   on
	Trust, Honor & Respect
	Trust - confidence, implicit faith, moral responsibility Honor - high  respect, reputation, sense of what is right or due Respect - esteem, to relate to, consideration, to set value to These qualities are the foundation of any good relationship.  They are crucial in a D/s.    A D/s relationship without these qualities can lead to abuse or possible death.  These qualities must be mutual.    These qualities are often spoken as ones that are earned.  If you do not possess them yourself how will you recognize when they are earned?  You must trust, honor and respect yourself.  These qualities are what makes the gift of submission valuable.  These qualities in a Dom/me are what makes submission a gift.   At all times Y/your actions reflect upon Y/you and Y/your relationship. Each of us before beginning a relationship should possess these qualities to some degree.  It is my opinion that those who deceive another lack these qualities within themselves.  A true Dom/me will increase these values within a sub/slave.  In turn the true sub/slave with magnify them in a Dom/me.    It is imperative for the emotional wellness of the P/people you become intimate with that you are completely honest.  If you are married say so.  If you have more than one sub or it is your desire to say so.  If you do not want to be with a Dom/me with more than one sub say so.  If you only want an on-line relationship say so.  If you want r/l say so.  If any of this changes or something of a similar nature the one you are involved with should be the first to know.  Not informing them first diminishes trust and respect; not only between the two of you, but also those that know you.   It is not hard to speak the truth.    Throughout my journey, i have witnessed Dom/me and submissives, which were deceived.   They had no choice in the deciding if this was the relationship that would fulfill them because they were lied to at the very beginning.  Each relationship progressed with the truth hidden.  They were devastated when the truth came out.    The truth always comes out in the end.   It takes time for someone to earn your trust, honor and respect.  It is difficult to watch P/people meet and collar on the spot.  It devalues the meaning of the collar to those that take it seriously.  It also teaches those new to the lifestyle that this is what is done, and then this irrational behavior continues.  A Dom/me must have control of Themselves first and foremost in all situations.  The offering of a collar so recklessly appears as if it comes from Someone not in control of Themselves.    There are those that do not respect the value of the gift of submission.  These people lie and misrepresent themselves.   They keep hidden their relationships with others.  Their actions have no honor.   As you get to know someone and the foundation is built on trust, honor and respect you will have a relationship that is strong and beautiful; a wonderful example of what a D/s relationship can be.  It will be a union Y/you will take pride in and the depth of your submission will grow.  You will explore and fulfill your potential.  Most of all you will be happy and blessed.